We spend so much time worrying about what’s coming down the road at us, instead of just living in the moment. Don’t be afraid of what’s coming down the road. Unless it’s a big 18-wheeler, and then you should probably be afraid and jump out of the way, I’m just saying, but…
Don’t follow someone else’s idea of what your life should be, be it your parents or your friends, or perhaps most pervasively the media. No one can tell you or teach you what your life should be; you learn it, simply by living.
And we’re all told about this great ideal of success. Success! It’s ridiculous, and elusive.
Success is not a bank account, or a job title. Success is waking up in the morning and looking forward to that day. Success is putting your head on your pillow at night and being proud of how you lived that day. Success is choosing a path, or a partner, or a job, or a hobby that makes you smile and that makes you laugh. Success is living a life with compassion and joy and genuine wonder and giving that compassion, joy and wonder back to others. Always, always give back. Believe me when I say it is the most satisfying and meaningful thing that you will ever do.
I leave you with this. I heard a saying, way, way back when I was here at the University of Windsor. A saying that shaped me in the most unexpected way. From the hallowed halls of academia, I give you this:
I wish I were a glow worm
A glow worm’s never glum
For how can you be grumpy
when the sun shines out your bum
- Amanda Tapping, June 12 2014